For Photographers

Why I Hit “Unfollow”

September 27, 2016


Tips For Wedding Photographers

For all of you creatives out there who are a) just starting out or b) have had your business for years, I have a key word that is going to change your life : “UNFOLLOW“. Okay, don’t get me wrong, it sounds harsh but really it’s a life saver. Let me give you a back story. Three years ago when I started out as a wedding photographer I followed everyone, and I mean EVERYONE. I would religiously follow their blogs and even try to manipulate their styles (I know I’m not alone in this). I thought that by following people I was learning new things when really, I was hurting myself. I don’t think there is anything wrong with following people, in fact I still follow a ton of people. The thing is- you need to know what is safe for your creativity and heart.  Being a creative is a precious gift, and a talent given from God so why not treasure it? The more attention I gave to what others were doing the more I became insecure with myself.  I started comparing myself and really – lost who I was. Lets be real – we have all been there. The scenario goes like this – you are innocently scrolling through Instagram or Facebook and you see a fellow creative’s work. You click it, and then you glance back at your own work and your mind starts racing. The negative feelings start pouring in ; “Why am I not where they are? I’m not as good as them. I should do _____ like them.” The list goes on and you know what you are doing? You are poisoning your creative flow. The best advice I can give is to simply click, “unfollow”. Social media is not bad if you monitor it. Does it mean you don’t like the person? No! It just means that you don’t need to see everything they post, that way, you can focus on your own talents. Focus on what YOU can contribute to this world. After all – you were uniquely made and there is only one of you so why not embrace it?



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I see the beauty in imperfect things. As a Christ-follower, faith is central to my life, work, and connections. I am fueled by joy, known for my bubbly and sunny disposition, and always with a warm hug. Imperfect beauty inspires my love for all things vintage, abstract art, and real love stories. I love moments full of grit and emotion; life off the beaten path; stunning views along the shore; and the juxtaposition of New York grunge and laid back Cali-vibe. 

As a mother of two, I am very familiar with how quickly life’s most important moments fly by too quickly. I will calmly and seamlessly guide you through frames that will endure. I strive to capture your memories with one-of-a-kind images full of meaning. I cannot wait to connect with you! 

I bring all of these elements to my time with my couples. With over a decade of experience in the industry, I know how to gently guide you through poses that are natural and beautiful. The transition into this sentence doesn’t make sense. Throughout your day, you will feel the love from those there to celebrate
 you two. 
When I’m not photographing weddings, I enjoy long walks in the neighborhood with my husband, my kiddos Tuxie and Sunny, and my labradoodle Hokie.. Also, I am a huge dog-lover! I’m pretty sure heaven is full of dogs. I can’t wait to connect with you, and yes, your pup is always welcome here! 


FROM my journal


Why I Hit “Unfollow”

Why I Hit “Unfollow”

Why I Hit “Unfollow”

Why I Hit “Unfollow”

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