The Perfection Battle

April 13, 2015


Chevron and Succulents

Being a perfectionist can be a battle and I don’t always think its a good thing. It can hinder you from a lifetime of growth and success. I find that the topic of being a perfectionist is something that I have dealt with all my life; cheerleading, gymnastics, being an art major and now my photography. I always thought it was a good thing. I thought that perfecting this “one thing” will make me better and I will be the best. It never seemed to be the case. In every aspect of my life being a perfectionist has propelled me backwards instead of forwards. It seems that perfectionism, and the phrase “your never good enough” have gone hand and hand. Here is the definition of Perfectionist & Perfect taken from Google :

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“Refuses to accept any standard short of perfection”. Well what is perfect?

Definition Taken From Google

Who the heck is “perfect”?  I think this a standard that is unreachable, in every aspect; as a person, as a family, in art, and even in photography. I have to remind myself that the only thing (which was a person) that was perfect was Christ. So where am I getting at with this?

I feel like there are so many things that I want to do and achieve but because I can’t get it perfect the first time I give up and don’t do it at all. THATS NUTS. The road to success and growth is embracing the failures and flaws. For me, those flawed photos I take, or these blogposts I post with typos show realness and character (if you haven’t noticed, typos are my best friend).  I love being imperfect. I want to be an artist that creates more that is imperfect then create nothing at all. I think we all struggle with this battle but I say, WHY NOT LOVE OUR FLAWS. Flaws = character and growth in every aspect of our life. Flaws and character = uniqueness and individuality. Being different goes a heck of a lot further then being the same.

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I see the beauty in imperfect things. As a Christ-follower, faith is central to my life, work, and connections. I am fueled by joy, known for my bubbly and sunny disposition, and always with a warm hug. Imperfect beauty inspires my love for all things vintage, abstract art, and real love stories. I love moments full of grit and emotion; life off the beaten path; stunning views along the shore; and the juxtaposition of New York grunge and laid back Cali-vibe. 

As a mother of two, I am very familiar with how quickly life’s most important moments fly by too quickly. I will calmly and seamlessly guide you through frames that will endure. I strive to capture your memories with one-of-a-kind images full of meaning. I cannot wait to connect with you! 

I bring all of these elements to my time with my couples. With over a decade of experience in the industry, I know how to gently guide you through poses that are natural and beautiful. The transition into this sentence doesn’t make sense. Throughout your day, you will feel the love from those there to celebrate
 you two. 
When I’m not photographing weddings, I enjoy long walks in the neighborhood with my husband, my kiddos Tuxie and Sunny, and my labradoodle Hokie.. Also, I am a huge dog-lover! I’m pretty sure heaven is full of dogs. I can’t wait to connect with you, and yes, your pup is always welcome here! 


FROM my journal


The Perfection Battle

The Perfection Battle

The Perfection Battle

The Perfection Battle

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